My two oldest sons are 14 and 16 years old.
A couple of months ago, the oldest boy came to my wife and I and asked us if he could move into the attic.
He was sharing a room with his brother and wanted privacy of his own. My wife and I didn’t want to spend time cleaning up the attic. When Jack offered to clean the room, the two of us agreed to his plan. Jack and two of his friends spent an entire weekend cleaning the attic. I was impressed with the work they performed. Jack was very excited about having space of his own and my wife and I were happy about the changes to. Unfortunately, things have changed since my son moved to the upstairs room. He has access to the attic from outside of the house and I think he is going in and out in the middle of the night. I also think my son is smoking pot upstairs. It is really easy to access marijuana products, because we live in a state with recreational and medical marijuana access. Jack isn’t old enough to buy recreational or medical marijuana products, but I know he has a couple of friends that might be of age. I want to talk with Jack about the marijuana use, but I’m afraid he won’t tell me the truth. I want to find the right way to discuss the issue, because I don’t want my son to use recreational marijuana in the house. When he is old enough to pay the bills in his own apartment, then he can choose to use whatever recreational drugs that he wants.